SECRETS OF STAYING CALM IN A STORM :) (Part -2) - HOW TO BREAK JUDGEMENTS ?

HOW TO BREAK JUDGMENTS –

Judgments are registered in our mind in 2 ways

1)    Personal experience

2)    What we hear from others

 

 So how JUDGEMENTS are created by personal experience –

 

Let me take a small story to explain this –

 

In section “c” of class II – there was a boy named Ram he belongs to caste X , even his class teacher ‘Hema’ also belongs to same caste. In the same class there is another student, whose name is Ramya , She  belongs to caste ‘Y’ . Hema always supports and encourages Ram  and other students belonging to caste ‘x’. Hema goes one extra step by only praising  her caste students that they are very intelligent.

The above incidents might create following judgments

·         Same caste people support each other.

·         Caste ‘X’ is more intelligent than others.

·         This might even create an inferiority complex within Ramya.

·         She might even regret that she doesn’t belong to caste ‘X’.

·         She might Start hating anyone who belongs to caste ‘X’

 

Ramya is just in grade 2 and these judgments are build at a young age,

She might feel be difficult to break.

Each person builds different judgments with age and experience.

 

With time she will start seeing people from different back grounds becoming successful, when she gets help from other cast, she understand that not everyone are same. People are broadly classified in different categories. Hema and caste ‘X’  people are just a few when compared to the entre 7 billion population.

This makes Ramya a broad minded person and she evolves as a good human being.

This is how we break our judgments, that is with logic.

As logic and judgments cannot coexist.

Even today how many of us get judged by our surnames ?

 

These are the kids (people who judge others by their surname) who never worked with their old judgments and they have only grown physically but mentally they are still stuck up with their immature mind of a child.

 

When you are with old judgments it’s very difficult not only to adapt but also hinders your growth and one’s mental health deteriorates. You will be living in the dark word with your sick judgments.

 

 

Now let’s see

         How JUDGMENTS  are created by  - What we hear from others ?

Not everyone of us like Green colour, some like Red, some like Black etc… Right.

But when it comes to women – irrespective of individual choice we are bombarded with DUMMY information that

Being fair if beautiful!

Being slim is what all women are craving for!

Big boops and ass is what makes women feel that she is feminine (REALLY?)

The list is never ending with so many stereotypes and judgments.

Men Don’t cry ! (Really!! don’t they have tear glands in their eyes, don’t they have pain receptors in their body )

Society builds so many unnecessary judgments and illogical conclusions.

If you try following them to show off in front of this faceless society then you might end up dying with just one heavy feeling that is REGRET!

The society gets its power only when you start giving importance to it and start adhering and following its stereotypes.

The day you start living you life as you wish and do what is right then these types of judgments will also fade away from your mind and you start reliving yourself  from the bondage and  start enjoying  to live a happy and peaceful life .

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