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Here I’m talking about in general about relationships Eg. Between friends, partners, siblings etc.. The most important component that is required for building a deep relationship is FAITH, and make sure it’s not trust. Most of us interchange these 2 words, One doesn’t need any evidence or experience to have faith, but trust is built over time with experience and logic. pic courtesy:https://www.etsy.com/listing/130276742/instant-download-faith-belief-motivating So now let’s concentrate on faith and its role in a relationship. Every one of us knows about Thomas Edison. Edison was a poor student. When a school master called Edison “addle” his furious mother took him out of school and proceeded to teach him at home. Edison said many years later, “My mother was the making of me. She was so true, so sure of me, and I felt I had someone to live for, someone I must not disappoint.” What made Edison to achieve is his mother’s faith on her child. Faith has the ability ...

According to (Mental Health – by  Hannah and Max Roser)  published in April 2018 , 1.1 billion people suffer from some kind of mental or substance use disorder. Out of which 543 million suffer from anxiety and depression that means at least one in every 10 people suffer from this. pic courtesy: https://medium.com/@leahharris/why-mandating-mental-health-education-in-schools-is-a-band-aid-on-a-gaping-wound-d72c3e570be2   If you are undergoing any of these, feel confident that you are neither alone nor worth less.Adding to this one important truth everyone has to realize in life is,   “All Experiences are preceded by mind; having mind has their master, created by mind.” Is easily understood by people suffering from Anxiety and depression, I feel you guys are really lucky as, you guys not only understand this noble truth but also have experienced it. How to deal with an anxious mind – Anxiety is something which takes you from “being too afraid of death”...

In this crowded world every one of us wanted someone with us as a partner/friend/mate etc.. Pic courtesy: Wikimedia commons When it comes to our life partner, we are filled with lots of dreams and expectations even before we meet them. These expectations are amplified due to movies, exaggerated sex videos, media standards etc. So the reality and expectations are in different planes even before we meet the person. When we fall in love our fantasy and expectations overpower us and we easily start trusting and giving huge amount of energy towards them. When our relationship fails, we are completely shattered and hurt beyond recovery.   In some cases it’s just one sided, but we still love the other person even without getting anything in return. Nothing wrong in this, because that’s how our surroundings is affecting us. Most of the fairy tales and stories are just about Prince, princes and happy endings. Most of the couple goals in today’s world are set by actors and...

Every one of us struggle with the masses to fit into so called NORMAL. Get degree; Get married; Buy House; Have kids; Go to a job; Slog and get retired. We hardly get any time to think about our likes, ambitions, rights, passion, we don’t even have time to think about ourselves. But most of us consider our self to be a failure. Pic courtesy : https://hellinthehallway.net/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/if-you-are-always-trying-to-be-normal-maya-angelou.gif When we are not able to get a degree or get into a relationship or own a house or get a job or have kids. RIGHT ? Because, the society keeps putting pressure on us. We are pushed into an isolation with a mental distress. What the society lacks is the understanding that everyone is unique and no one can be compared with another. But we cannot change the overall society. But what we can handle is not falling for their words and trying to align with them. At points in life we are afraid to express our fee...

Every one of us is born with just two types of fear.   -> Loud sound   -> Heights pic courtsey: http://thomasmcgreevy.com/fear/ Other fears are inculcated into us through our culture and the surrounding environment. Through our life we accumulate lots of fear inside us. This leads to a form of mental speculation around us. The smaller the mental circle higher the constraints we put on ourselves. We start to live in our own imaginary limits. When we start aligning with our fears, their control over us increases. Sometimes we are unable to do what we like, due to the amount of fear that gets accumulated in our mind those are the times we feel handicapped by our thoughts. How to come out of this vicious cycle of fear? Fear is a protection technique of our mind from any kind of danger. But due to our way of life “ fear” instead of protecting us it brings us more harm. Because, we are implementing it in a wrong way. How to come out of this unnecessa...

We are advanced in many ways when we compare with our past generations of human evolution. For instance, cheap and easy modes of communication, advanced technology, better forecasting natural disasters, advanced medical tools, more comforts and luxurious lives etc.. But when we start to think in an intellectual way we will clearly understand how miserably we have failed in many and advanced in very few. The most important connection that we are losing is the connection with Mother Nature. We don’t have small streams which relaxed our past generation; we don’t have fruit trees around us which fed our past; we don’t have wells that supply sweet drinking water; we don’t have air that gives us fresh oxygen, we don’t have landscapes to see the sun set, we don’t have the calmness to listen to the beautiful sounds of birds and insects that makes us sleep, our evening sky is no more filled with flocks of birds.   I no more get fresh food without chemicals; I no more see my nei...

Any life is incomplete without ups and downs. Our life flows through time, i.e. from birth till death. We feel good times flies fast and bad time moves very slow, sometimes we feel we are stuck in the time. Only during our failures, we apply the break and observe our condition. Sometimes we eagerly wait for the bad time to end. The more desperate we are, the time moves further slow, creating more pain physically and mentally. So, How to handle bad times without creating any bad scar in our life? We tend to make more mistakes and harm our self when we are mentally low. Step 1 : Accept that you are in pain/ trouble / failure , one can never solve a problem without accepting its existence. Step 2: If possible, find the cause for your situation.   Step 3: Write down the ways you can solve it. (When you write down your problem and its solutions, you will understand that the problem is limited and smaller because when we mentally see the problems we feel its huge and m...

Before getting in to our topic lets define apparent and ultimate reality Apparent reality is ordinary conventional truth and ultimate reality abstract truth. Eg. The smooth surface of the table we set is the apparent reality and in other sense the apparent surface consists of forces and vibrations that cause friction. That is the ultimate truth. So let’s see, how this concept is related with our life? Let’s understand this concept with an eg. We simply define success in the following terms, è      Wealth è      Fame è      Looks Right ?(money can buy all the above) Millions of people follow an actor, a sports player, a musician etc.. Of course we are greatly influenced by the media. And feel completely normal for exhibiting these characteristics. And few of us put in a lot of efforts to have style like them, buy the products recommended by these people, and follow them crazily which makes these celebr...

This article is part 2 of my bullying Article. It was Surprising to see my 10 th classmates asking for an Apology for their bullying behavior after almost 13 Years. But not a single Teacher realized their mistake of spoiling the child’s confidence. What I find now are young adults with low self esteem because of the small mindedness of my pathetic teachers who are literate when it comes to the subject and completely illiterate when it comes to knowledge. A child is the greatest asset not only to the family, but also to the country. But due to the exposure to parents who keep comparing with the neighbors, or with the teachers who keep comparing with the marks, Kill’s the child’s confidence, little by little with age. What is more disheartening is to find this horrifying process still continuing. Stop blaming the child for her/his performance because even the teacher also holds an equal responsibility. Most of the parents display an unpleasant behavior before the kids, wh...

Depression What we have to understand about depression is, It can affect ANYONE, there are so many people who are suffering from depression, even without the awareness that they are having depression. A World Health Organization report shows that India is leading as the most depressed country in the world, followed by China and USA. In spite being top of the list i.e., “ At least 6.5 per cent of the Indian population suffers from some form of the serious mental disorder.” Which is a huge number, has gone completely unnoticed. But what comes to the surface is the huge suicide rates (in which India tops again in the world).   The inference that can be drawn from the above lines are that, mental health is directly related with suicide rates. What makes the mental issue more serious is the taboo attached to it. I have seen many people feeling so anxious and nervous, and when   I ask them “are you feeling nervous” they blankly refuse. Because of the fe...

“ The dark side of India was out. It was found that people were more interested to know the economist's   Gita Gopnath’s(IMF Chief economist) caste identity as hysterically googling for the same ” “Info from one India” WHATS WRONG IN THAT ? In most of the countries the people carry the surname which is the family name, which in itself reveals the cast or community they belong to. Few of the South Indian states removed that and just had the family member name as the surname. Excluding few Iyer, Reddy , etc.. Who must have felt very insecure as they didn’t have the confidence to stand alone without the community surname. That’s completely alright Because I‘m from the country INDIA where even Mahathma was given only to GANDHI instead of Mohandas Karamchand. Today ,most people don’t know the name of “ The father of the country”   i.e Mohandas Karamchand but everyone knows his community name “ Gandhi” Even so called the great Prime   Minister     Mr. J...

Till class viii I was in a co-ed education. I never differentiated between boys and girls. Opposite sex never fascinated me at that age. I did well in my school, not because I had great teachers, but had a good friend. I was put in a new school so called great school in my city. It was a girl’s school. I was not afraid of change, but few students and pathetic teachers scared the hell out of me by executing a cheap and vulgar behavior and lacked common sense. These girls were so fascinated and mad for boys, their psychology was not normal. More they were deprived of opposite sex, the more they developed an attachment. The only words they were fond of - CRUSH, DATING, SEX AND GUYS!!! And for me, I didn’t even know the meaning nor had such feelings. These girls bullied me so badly that they made fun of how I looked, how ignorant I was regarding sexual desires as I didn’t know the meanings, made fun of my language. They just wanted me to feel, how dumb I was. I was a very conf...

How Pain becomes a boon? Let me illustrate it with an eg. From, my life. This is about a woman from our neighbor, she is in her mid 50’s, but afraid to travel alone in the afternoon and evening times. She will ask us to accompany us till the bus depot especially when it’s the evening time.  I used to feel this lady is too illogical, there are so many people on road … still why is she afraid. My mother is a kind woman, she used to go to that lady to drop her. I was really irritated with her illogical behavior. I used to see logic in every stuff, if I don’t understand then I don’t accept, as simple as that. As I didn’t understand many things about life , I didn’t accept many things. I felt life is not fair for everyone, nature is biased. I led my life with above delusions still one day “panic attack struck me”. I was afraid of everything, I didn’t understand anything. This woman was an angel in my life “my beautiful roommate” she held my hand and said “Dear, there i...

It was on a Friday around 10 pm , my husband and myself were returning home after a very tiring day…. We stopped at a small store to buy our stuff. There was a pregnant dog lying in front of the shop.. Along with my stuffs I thought of buying a few biscuits for the dog. Myself:  Anna , please give me rava and biscuit packet. Customer 1: (came after me, asked for 3 items) he was given what he required. (I was waiting) Again Myself: Anna, please give me rava and biscuit packet. The Store guy went inside. Store guy: what you want ? Myself: Bro, please give me rava and biscuit packet. Store guy : take rava and what is the other product. Myself: a biscuit packet. The Store guy went inside Store guy:   what is the other product ? Myself: (smiled) A biscuit packet. Myself: are you feeling okay ,Anna?? Store guy: having severe headache. Myself: why can’t you take a small break and have some tea ? Store guy: it’s a family issue, tea cannot help me...

Who is not afraid of failures?? Everyone hates to fail? In spite, having numerous positive effects in our life because of them. Failures eliminate all actors and fake people from our life. It shows life in its true color. All we need is the strength within to see the reality. Failures teach us     What not to do?   Whom we should not trust?   Why to maintain patience?   How to be strong? Who truly cares for you? Nothing is permanent   Time has the capacity to heal any wound. One who waits in the dark till the dawn, get to see the sun. But how many of us have the strength to overcome our difficulties and failures ?? Most of us are broken beyond the ability to cure. The feeling that we have been cheated makes our heart heavy our mind gloomy, and our body weak. We lose hope and let the wave of failures to wash us. Because, everyone is made out of feelings, perceptions and emotions. When our feelings are broken; Perceptions ...