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How Pain becomes a boon? Let me illustrate it with an eg. From, my life. This is about a woman from our neighbor, she is in her mid 50’s, but afraid to travel alone in the afternoon and evening times. She will ask us to accompany us till the bus depot especially when it’s the evening time.  I used to feel this lady is too illogical, there are so many people on road … still why is she afraid. My mother is a kind woman, she used to go to that lady to drop her. I was really irritated with her illogical behavior. I used to see logic in every stuff, if I don’t understand then I don’t accept, as simple as that. As I didn’t understand many things about life , I didn’t accept many things. I felt life is not fair for everyone, nature is biased. I led my life with above delusions still one day “panic attack struck me”. I was afraid of everything, I didn’t understand anything. This woman was an angel in my life “my beautiful roommate” she held my hand and said “Dear, there i...

It was on a Friday around 10 pm , my husband and myself were returning home after a very tiring day…. We stopped at a small store to buy our stuff. There was a pregnant dog lying in front of the shop.. Along with my stuffs I thought of buying a few biscuits for the dog. Myself:  Anna , please give me rava and biscuit packet. Customer 1: (came after me, asked for 3 items) he was given what he required. (I was waiting) Again Myself: Anna, please give me rava and biscuit packet. The Store guy went inside. Store guy: what you want ? Myself: Bro, please give me rava and biscuit packet. Store guy : take rava and what is the other product. Myself: a biscuit packet. The Store guy went inside Store guy:   what is the other product ? Myself: (smiled) A biscuit packet. Myself: are you feeling okay ,Anna?? Store guy: having severe headache. Myself: why can’t you take a small break and have some tea ? Store guy: it’s a family issue, tea cannot help me...

Who is not afraid of failures?? Everyone hates to fail? In spite, having numerous positive effects in our life because of them. Failures eliminate all actors and fake people from our life. It shows life in its true color. All we need is the strength within to see the reality. Failures teach us     What not to do?   Whom we should not trust?   Why to maintain patience?   How to be strong? Who truly cares for you? Nothing is permanent   Time has the capacity to heal any wound. One who waits in the dark till the dawn, get to see the sun. But how many of us have the strength to overcome our difficulties and failures ?? Most of us are broken beyond the ability to cure. The feeling that we have been cheated makes our heart heavy our mind gloomy, and our body weak. We lose hope and let the wave of failures to wash us. Because, everyone is made out of feelings, perceptions and emotions. When our feelings are broken; Perceptions ...

Why regret is a strong negative force? How it affects us? Every one of us would have some kind of regret in our heart. Regret has zero positive effect and numerous negative effects on our body and mind. Why zero positive effect? Regret always dealt with the past, the past is something which is already dead and nothing can be done with it irrespective of our efforts. It’s just a complete waste of energy and time. Before regretting about our past deeds we have to strongly accept the fact that noone is perfect in this world “NO ONE” Every one of us is bound to commit mistakes. The best way to overcome is to accept and change.   Most of us regret within but fail to accept due to our ego and fake our true feelings to the outside world. Living a fake life leads to building up of more negativity within our self. Acceptance helps us to develop courage and strengthen our character. It Makes one more trust-able individual among our peers. Regret kills our present and m...

To survive successfully in this world there are a few qualities one should be expert at. Today I accept my failure because I lack them, they are   I don’t know how to go against my promise, because I stand by my words in all circumstances;   I don’t know to help people based on their repaying capacity; I help them based on my capacity irrespective of their money or power; I cannot fake my face and character just to get my job done;   I don’t know to break some one’s trust irrespective of my situation. Hence I was mocked for being honest; I was ditched for being truthful; I was fooled for being kind; I was neglected for being humble; I was slapped for raising the righteousness; I was outdated for being virtuous; I was stamped for being tolerant; I was broken for being generous; I was left alone for being determined. Still I’m the same because I’m happy at the bottom of my heart and leading a regret free life. There is someone who is...

For time being let’s forget the things we procrastinate, that we don’t like. Let’s concentrate on stuffs we procrastinate, that we like. We postpone so many things in spite having liking towards them. Let me explain with few eg. When you feel like eating something which you like … your mind voice (what if I gain some weight? What if, this food doesn't go well with my health? ) When you feel like wearing a different dress…. Your mind voice (what if I look odd? should I reduce some more weight ? should I wait for some special occasion ? ) When you feel like posting something directly from your heart .... (what will others think about me? Is my grammar right?   Do people support me ? will I attract unnecessary arguments ?   ) When you wanted to follow your passion .. your mind   voice ( what if I run out of money ?? or face losses ? if I’m not successful ? will my performance in current job reduce ? ) When you want to express your weakness and pain...

Falling in Love is a beautiful feeling!! Every one of us would have encountered this feeling with someone at some point of time. Isn’t it a very beautiful with, lots of happiness, hope, faith and bliss… What really matters is the faith and love we have on the other person. Something to be noted here is the amount of energy, time, space in our heart and mind we have given to the other person. So it’s a great effort we put to make our relation to work out. HOW MANY OF US HAVE THAT FIRST LOVE FEEL WITH OUR OWN SELF!! Forget about love, how many of us hate our own self??? We are not happy with our looks, status, intelligence, appearance, weight, color, etc… Let’s get in to some factual data China had high suicide rates earlier, but now India was leading. “According to the WHO report released in 2014, 2.35 lakh committed suicide in India”. These alarming numbers are just the tip of the ice berg. The base cause is lack of love and interest that we have on...

When we start replacing he/she/they by “I “   and “myself” the problem becomes simple to deal as we start to gain control on our life and situations Most of the times we lose patience and wanted things to happen then and there , especially when our ego is hurt . We start giving too much importance to our ego and forget others role in our life. Apologies and regrets don’t work in most situations where the damage is more. True art of living is how we handle our self in most critical situations of life. Sometimes maintaining tolerance and giving time some time helps in overcoming tough issues .But what really makes tough is that every second of our troubled situation looks eternal. More desperate we feel for the time to pass, more slowly it becomes. We become mentally tiered, frustrated, sometimes we even go to the extent of feeling we are worthless in this world, our presence is not important. These, troubled thoughts even leads to think of ending one’s precious life. Adding to al...

  Present is due to the consequences of past,   Future is due to the consequences of present. So every moment of the present is important to make our life better So let’s see how to keep our mind in the present. When we start doing any activity cont. we will become better in it with time. The simplest way to bring our mind to present is to observe our breath, just the normal and the natural breath. Sometimes our breath is so feeble, sometimes deep, sometimes fast etc… Why breathe when we have so many things to observe. Because this is the only activity our body does all the times, this one we do it consciously i.e. while we are awake or asleep. Our rate of breathing varies with our body condition, E.g. When we are angry the rate is high and shallow, when we are calm rate is low and breath is deep. So the breath changes according to the body and mind conditions. Then being mindful in whatever activity you perform, when your mind deviates obser...

Most of the times things don’t happen in our life the way we wanted them. At times we are sad, unhappy, broken, and angry. We end up saying life is unfair from our own consequences of events that happened to us. Instead of finding way out through our sorrows we blame external things, on which we don’t have any power to control. Or we spend our time in regretting more and more which in turn we land up feeling depressed. Convincing our self that “I don’t deserve this ” and we start hating ourselves or someone. Creating gloomy atmosphere around us. Most of us fail to understand instead of solving our existing problems we create a breeding ground for more problems. Finally we get ourselves caught in to a complex web of problems and situations. This article helps you to understand and identify your present situation how to simplify your complexities in a step by step process. First step   To understand our problems and situations, we have to keep our mind free from agitatio...