RELATIONSHIP AND ITS COMPLEXITIES – awareness that has to be passed.


In this crowded world every one of us wanted someone with us as a partner/friend/mate etc..
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When it comes to our life partner, we are filled with lots of dreams and expectations even before we meet them.
These expectations are amplified due to movies, exaggerated sex videos, media standards etc.
So the reality and expectations are in different planes even before we meet the person.
When we fall in love our fantasy and expectations overpower us and we easily start trusting and giving huge amount of energy towards them. When our relationship fails, we are completely shattered and hurt beyond recovery.
 In some cases it’s just one sided, but we still love the other person even without getting anything in return. Nothing wrong in this, because that’s how our surroundings is affecting us. Most of the fairy tales and stories are just about Prince, princes and happy endings.
Most of the couple goals in today’s world are set by actors and rich people. Where, most people among them would have slept with multiple women and men, ditched their love ones after becoming famous or rich.
Today they will set goals for being together forever and tomorrow they will set the same goals with another person. Irony is people with multiple partners set goals for true love. No couple in this world can set goals for another, unless and until they share the same person , even in that case there will be  a few differences, because every one of us confront different challenges with our partner. One’s life style/ clothes/ holiday destinations can never set examples for others to follow. 
So, the first trap for our relationship is our expectations that are built with the surrounding requirements and not with our personal needs.  
It’s completely fine to have expectations, but what really matter here is,
Are they satisfying your needs, is what is really important.
Most of us fail to teach our younger generation the real need of LOVE and LIFE PARTNER.
Financial Investment is a complex subject which stands on just 1 simple line
HIGHER THE RISK; HIGHER THE RETURNS,
LOWER THE RISK; LOWER THE RETURNS.
It makes sense, right?
Let’s look in to our modern day relationship which is trending around the world.
i.e Live in relationship.
It’s of very high risk with very low returns
Because
Your partner can break the bond any time without many complexities, there is a lot of chances you might end up being a single parent, you cannot deal legally for his/her wealth – no property rights, Abortion is just a women’s problem – have to deal with the pain etc..
For just one return
MORE FREEDOM
Do you really feel it’s worth?
That’s for you to contemplate.
I have seen females suffering alone for undergoing abortion due to more complexities in the law?
My mother says females are like a banana leaf and males are like thorns,
If the leaf falls on the thorn or the thorn falls on the leaf, it’s the leaf that gets torn. It’s the female’s body that is flooded with birth controls and capsules and other painful stuffs.
Relationship is a complex topic which we have to teach our kids and make them aware of the tough and painful consequences, because this decides their future. So that they don’t get carried away by the surrounding fantasy that they are exposed to.
I’m not here to tell which is best; I’m only concerned that our decisions should be grounded with reality and their consequences.

Thank you

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