PAIN IS A BOON


How Pain becomes a boon?

Let me illustrate it with an eg. From, my life.
This is about a woman from our neighbor, she is in her mid 50’s, but afraid to travel alone in the afternoon and evening times. She will ask us to accompany us till the bus depot especially when it’s the evening time.  I used to feel this lady is too illogical, there are so many people on road … still why is she afraid. My mother is a kind woman, she used to go to that lady to drop her. I was really irritated with her illogical behavior.
I used to see logic in every stuff, if I don’t understand then I don’t accept, as simple as that. As I didn’t understand many things about life , I didn’t accept many things. I felt life is not fair for everyone, nature is biased.

I led my life with above delusions still one day “panic attack struck me”. I was afraid of everything, I didn’t understand anything. This woman was an angel in my life “my beautiful roommate” she held my hand and said “Dear, there is nothing wrong with you. Just accept your feelings as it is and this too will pass ”. ACCEPT ??? SOME THING WHICH I DON’T UNDERSTAND ?? She convinced me with her own experiences how she battled her panic attacks.

I was forced to forget about understanding, because for me to keep one step ahead ; I have to accept my fear and feelings.
The day I accepted, is the day I was able to see the light at the end of my tunnel of anxiety. That day was the turning point of my life, I stopped to see logic for pain and sufferings, I just forgave and did whatever was possible by me, for the people who needed support.
That day, I was able to connect with a lot, many boulders of ignorance was shattered in my head. I felt relaxed.
That day, my perception changed.
I learned that it is not necessary to understand something to accept it;
Sometimes it’s important to accept so that you can understand.

Today, when my neighbor knocks our door to accompany her, I just smile at her and say “aunty, can I come with you till the bus depot”
That day she said “I feel so light, when someone like you can understand my pain, which is difficult for me to explain”.
My circle extended, my life was filled with nice people. I became kinder.
Thanks to my anxiety _/\_

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